It is possible to be a million miles apart psychologically while in the exact same bed and as near as the upcoming heartbeat even though you’re separated by time or perhaps miles. Have you had the experience of feeling truly separated or perhaps far apart from your partner even though you had been within touching distance? Have you felt in close proximity to someone you see hardly or do not truly know that well?
How can you explain this paradox? I have had both experiences in my life on more than a single occasion and I have attempted to figure out the root of this particular closeness and distance paradox. I do not have a definitive answer, but I believe I’m getting closer to the centre of the problem.
There are many types of distance or closeness. There is: psychological, spiritual, sexual, financial, emotional, and physical. I have felt really close psychologically to somebody who is a million miles apart physically. In case you are in a relationship and don’t look in close proximity to your significant other or partner in any of the above mentioned methods I recommend you think about the value of this relationship on your path through the majority of your life and the way to change this or just what it demonstrates in the general image of your relationship needs or agendas.
The real problem here is when we are close in several ways and distant in others. For instance, if you have a greater demand for romance, emotional closeness, or more affection and your significant other has a higher demand for better financial security and no need for emotional closeness or the romance, you won’t ever bridge this gap concentrating on a completely unrelated common area in your relationship or pretending it does not exist or does not really matter. You are going to tend to get the unresolved resentments, expectations, baggage, guilt etc. into the various other aspects of your relationship leading to greater distance and much more dysfunction. You might not do it purposely, but you’ll surely do it unconsciously.